Saturday is my 74th birthday. It has become a sober as well as a celebrating time for me. For the past seven years, before the elated moments of celebrating with Susie, and the joyous gorging myself on her cheesecake, I always feel deeply introspective, dive real deep, about my birthday. I shouldn’t be here. Saturday will be exactly seven years, one month, two weeks, six days that I’ve been living on the edge of life. The early morning of that day, Friday, September 14, 2007, the second day of Rosh Hashanah, was for me not just the beginning of a new year, but the start of a new life. That day was the day I should have died. That day was the day I experienced an unexpected massive cerebral hemorrhage from which 95% die or survive with serious mental and physical impairments. And, here I am. Alive. Unscathed. I vividly remember the neurosurgeon tearfully telling me six weeks after my head exploded, on the afternoon of November, 1, 2007, the very day of my 67th birthday, that he’s never seen a “walking 5% miracle.” His clean bill of health and promise that I was not a ticking time bomb were not too bad birthday gifts!
A “walking 5% percent miracle.” That number changes you. At least, it did me. A day hasn’t gone by since that I haven’t asked the unanswerable question, “Why?” Why did it happen without warning. Why wasn’t I among the other 95%. When I was told that possibly the hemorrhage was the result of a cracked skull I had suffered in a collegiate soccer game almost exactly 48 years earlier, I realized how tightly my present life is tied to its past; that life is not a bunch of separated and isolated way stations; that it’s really a process that is at times obvious and not so obvious. Events of days gone by are intimately connected with events of today and with those which will be bye and bye.
I also came to realize that merely asking questions has a motivating, generating, maybe even inspirational, power. You see, I don’t stop thinking, don’t stop wondering, don’t stop being grateful, don’t stop going deeper inside, don’t stop seeing keener outside, don’t take anything for granted, don’t stop living. I don’t stop realizing that the view from that edge is so much clearer than the view that most of us have. It creates new realities. It puts so much in better perspective. It sharpens what seems so indistinct; it brings up close what seems to be so afar; it makes reachable what seems to be so inaccessible; it makes simple what seems so complicated; it makes extraordinary what seems so ordinary; it makes beautiful what seems so otherwise. It brings into focus what is really important.
What was G.E.’s slogan? “Better living through science?” Sure, it was a week of science in neuro-icu at the University of Florida’s Shands Hospital that kept me here, and the months of science at home to avoid brain seizures, to deal with recurring headaches, and to endure chemical spinal meningitis as I healed also kept me here. But, to live well, not just to live better, much less just to live, takes more than that; it needs more than just being here. It’s the intense questions beyond information and skill: “Now what?” “What are you going to do with your ‘here’ and ‘now?'” “How do I celebrate living and not just having survived?” “How do I make sure I won’t die before I die?”
Like a Roc, out from the ashes of catastrophe arose a significant mobilizing and strengthening of my already strong value system with which to live a good life. The cerebral hemorrhage has caused me to see more intensely. It has more keenly sharpened my eye for Robert Frost’s road less traveled. It has made me more aware of Linda Ellis’ dash. It has made me more mindful of meaning and purpose, especially in those classrooms.
By all this, I mean what I am leaving behind in the hearts and minds of other people such as Sam and those two students I met Monday at the Student Union is far more important than whatever title, position, authority, renown, and stuff I may have accumulated. On a personal level, so many of have been told that when you get that salary increase or get that promotion or secure that tenure, or present that conference paper or receive that grant or publish that research, you will be fulfilled, satisfied, and especially happy. So many know, but won’t admit, that it is not true.
Let me tell you something about the soul of education. It is the sense of meaning, purpose, and service through human relationships. The validation of the human agenda in education has the power to make a difference. It’s the power of presence, of human relationship and connection, of simply being there, of listening and seeing, of hospitably welcoming, of totally embracing, of sincerely caring, of being in the service of another person.
A teacher is one of those serving people who realizes that everyone is a vital thread in the fabric of the future; everyone has a unique potential; everyone has dreams; everyone hopes; everyone has grace; everyone has a too often a hidden, ignored, and forgotten sacredness and nobility; everyone is beloved. A teacher is an unconditional believer, a befriender, a listener, a healer, an accompaniment, a companion, a seeker, an uncoverer, a gift giver, a retriever, a helper, a transformer, a supporter, an encourager, an empathic, a nurturer, a recoverer, a reminder, and a lover. And, letting that matter above all else both to you and each of them. I’ll repeat that: and, letting that matter above all else both to you and each of them.
I’ll repeat something I just said in the previous Random Thought: my TEACHER’S OATH, whose emergence is directly connected to my survival, is about remembering, bringing out of hiding, recapturing, and restoring the soul of education. You’ll find it’s not about pedagogical qualities or technological qualities. It’s about qualities of human relationship. Your unconditional belief in, hope for, faith in, and love of each student is important to each student, but most professors don’t know or want to know that; that unconditional belief in, hope for, faith in, and love of each student is important to each professor, but most professors don’t know or want to know that.
Education is one of those endeavors that is as close to love as you can get. To build a trained, caring, spiritual, serving educational system that is worthy of students and us all, that’s my integrity; it’s my truth; it’s the place in me from whence comes my greatest truth. And, my cerebral hemorrhage placed me more entrenched in that place.
Louis
Hi Louis
Happy 74 Birthday for tomorrow! I hope you have a great day. Thanks for reminding us of never to lose sight of the importance of our relationships with each student.
Sue Waters
Support Manager
Edublogs | CampusPress
Thank you, Sue. And, thanks for all your time and effort in maintaining edublogs.
Louis